Are You Asking Powerful Questions? Eliminate AWKWARD Conversations Once And For All!
Ever have an awkward conversation with a co-worker, client, friend, spouse, child, sibling... really anyone?
Awkward conversations include one or more of the following:
- Rambling one-sidedness
- The same stories over and over
- The same issues again and again
- Shallow skimming - chat about the weather followed by:
- Uncomfortable silence
- Whining
- Blaming
- The expectation of my coming up with an answer or resolution
I used to have conversations with one or more of these elements all the time.
Now, I just ask better questions. Powerful questions even.
In fact, when you have good coaching conversational tools in your tool belt, a lot more than your conversations can change. Awareness can be created. Destinies can be altered. Futures can be gained.
Here are just a few examples that have changed my life and the life of others around me.
- "Where do you want to be in 5 years?"
- "Whatâs holding you back?"
- "What would your life look like if 'that' was no longer an issue?
- "If you say ...
8 Ways Bridges Differs From Other Training Courses
Simply put, our Bridges training courses were designed with you -- the trainee -- in mind.Â
Here are 8 ways Bridges courses differ from many, or even most, training courses.
No. 1 -- At Bridges, we take very seriously how we certify our trainees.
All our cohort courses require individual interaction where we are looking for each personâs grasp of the concepts.
No. 2 -- We give personal attention to the trainee.
All of our training is face-to-face, not voice-to-voice. Not sure what that means? Many, maybe even most, coach training or destiny discovery courses meet the credentialing requirement for voice-to-voice through group phone calls.
No dis, but I have been on some of those phone calls and have not had the greatest experience. While technically it is live training, there were almost always too many people on the call to feel individually connected, AND oftentimes the trainer would ask someone to respond and they were not even there or it took a long time for them to respond. ...
4 Reasons People Put Off Destiny By Design, And How They Felt Later
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Here are 4 reasons weâve seen people put this off and then how they felt about it later.
1. âI canât really afford it at this time.â
or:
âWhy didnât I find the money? I would have saved so much if I knew where I was going instead of wasting it on other pursuits.â
2. âI donât really have time for this right now.â
or:
âIf I waited until I âhad timeâ Iâd have to wait till I retire. Iâm so glad I made time. This changed the course of my life.â
3. âIâm not sure if I really need this.â
or:
âIf only I knew then what I know now, it could have been so much different. I didnât know what I didnât know â if that makes sense.â
4. âWhat if I donât really have anything unique in me to dig into?â
or:
âI had no idea I thought so differently from others or had unique passions and giftings. I feel so compelled to be me now!â
Which reason fits you best right now?
How will you feel on the other side of this?
Is it time to join in before this season launches?
Whatâs At Stake If You Put It Off Destiny By Design?
Taking Destiny By Design doesnât guarantee you a preferred future, and itâs not for everyone, but if you canât say for sure where you are headed, itâs not likely you will get out of the fog by accident.
Thatâs kind of like saying your financial plan is to win the lottery.
Itâs not very likely. Especially if you donât play.Â
Here's whatâs at stake:
- Wasted time waiting for something to come to you.
- Unrealized potential, because you didnât even know what to do.
- Missed opportunities never considered.
- Recognition of personal uniqueness: giftings, passions, calling, strengths...
People who need what you have to give are waiting for you to step up.
Not that God couldnât use another, but why not be all you can be (and weâre not talking about the army)!
Understanding your Destiny by Design may be closer than you think!
How Safe Is Your Destiny? 4 Threats You Can Avoid
Itâs simple really.
To move toward your preferred future, you need two things.
First, to identify what your destiny is, and second, you need to take steps toward it.
Simple, yes... But not common, and usually not easy.
The truth is that God has great plans for your life. In fact, He has good works planned in advance for each of us. Ephesians 2:10 even calls each of us a masterpiece.
For we are Godâs masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.
So, straight up, here are the 4 threats you need to avoid (and at least two ways to safeguard your future.)
- Procrastination â knowing what you need to do but not actually getting to it.
- Apathy â not caring enough to pursue what you need to know or what needs to be done.
- Ignorance â not knowing what you are designed for and missing out on the pursuit of your personal destiny.
- Fear â allowing some sort of hurdle to keep you from moving forward.
But wait! Thereâs hope!
...3 Reasons To Use The Simple StoryBrand Killer Question And Where To Use It
Weâve been studying StoryBrand here at Bridges Coaching and weâd love to pass some of our key learnings on to you.
The âkiller questionâ works in at least 3 ways.
- It sets up the value of the decision. If you donât consider what you would be losing, itâs hard to recognize the worth of the choice.
- It helps with the timing. When you can focus on what you will be missing out on, it expedites the opt-in timing.
- It right sizes the âfear of firstâ. Even people who love new things donât know what they will be like till they try them. For each of us, there are some questions and hesitancy about how things will go when we have never done them before.
Ready for the question?
Hang in there. Just a couple more thoughts.
This question is nearly invaluable in coaching conversations. It creates awareness in exceptional ways.
This question is one you need to weigh as you consider Coach Training or even Destiny Discovery.
Ok, here goes. The question is simply:
What is at stake?
Usually, t...
What's next? If you can't say for sure where God is leading you, we can help!
Clarity seems to be a buzz word lately, especially in regards to goal setting.
I mean really, you absolutely need it to move forward well. No one orders an Uber but then fumbles with giving the driver a destination.
And yet...
Sometimes we do that with our lives.
Itâs like the destination for our lives is more like a Sunday drive with no specific outcome clarified.
The Destiny by Design course includes an exercise that focuses on clarifying your Life Purpose Statement. When you have taken the time to drill down to your core and decipher your internal design, it becomes much clearer what your personal best nexts should be.
Clarity is a hoax when you fake it and pretend you have a clear next step.
Clarity is a hoax if you think it isnât needed.
Clarity is a hoax if you feel itâs only general and not specific like youâre just supposed to be good all the time rather than knowing specifically what you are good at and how to invest in bringing your best self to the table.
Clarity do...
How 5 Bridges Alumni Are Using Their Coach Training
People often ask what is needed to actually launch a coaching practice.
The answer varies from state to state, but for most, the bottom line is that once you have completed the legal checkoff list for your state, you simply need to be good at your craft.
Most of us donât check the credentials on the wall of the massage therapist, we just go back if they help us out.
Bridges Coaching Life coach certification is designed to help you do just that â actually help people out! While there is a Next Level Training that Bridges offers (contact us if you want to know more), the first level course was designed to be one-stop shopping. You will have everything needed (skills-wise) to set up sessions that actually help people.
Here are a couple of shout outs to a few of our alumni and their organizations!
Barb Ranck â Your Clear Next Step and Courageously Imperfect
"Barb shared, Hi Cindy! My site is https://www.cicandd.com which stands for CI Coaching & Development. CI stands for Courageou...
5 Fears All Good Leaders Have
We all have them, or at least we should.
Good leaders want to hit the mark. They want to make a difference. They want to be worthy of following. Good leaders want to help others toward achieving clear goals and helping them get there in the best way possible.
That being said â here are five fears all good leaders have.
- Fear of missing the mark.
- Fear of being status quo.
- Fear of leading people in the wrong direction, or maybe just not the best direction.
- Fear of nebulous targets.
- Fear of a floundering pathway.
These healthy âfearsâ should fuel good leaders toward good leadership!
Yet most of us have probably had experiences where the goals were not inspiring and action steps were not actually clear. Sometimes, it seems we need to go back to a document or email to remember where we were going or what we supposed to be doing.
Good Coach Training will clear up these concerns and alleviate these fears once and for all!
Before understanding the coaching paradigm, it was common...
How NOT To Gamble With Your Destiny!
Do you know what an acorn grows up to be?
How about a kitten? Or maybe a tadpole?
Knowing what is âseededâ within you changes everything! And yet, many people donât know what they are made of, or what they are meant to become.
When we arenât sure of whatâs in us, we run the risk of gambling with Godâs intended destiny for our lives.
Psalm 139:13 says God knit us together in our motherâs womb. Heâs the one who decided how tall you would be, what color eyes you would have, whether your hair would be curly or straight and so much more.
These external DNA markers make each of us unique, but wait - thereâs more.
So much more.
We have an internal DNA that sets us apart from each other even more than how we look.
Our internal DNA consists of things like:
- Personality type
- Motivational gifts
- Strengths and weaknesses
- Five-fold ministry gifting
- 7 Mountains calling
- Personal passions and unique interest arenas
And the list could go on.
Knowing your unique personal design guides ...