The Best Lies Series - What The World Says
The "best" lies are the ones that work. I like to say they are kind of like good poison, they are enticing and taste good, but that little bit of toxin will kill ya. The best lies put a colored lens over your life so you see things in a skewed way. You miss the good God has for you because you believe something the world wants you to focus on.
For instance, I share openly in our training about a lie I believed for years that said, "I'm not attractive." Some facts certainly need to be acknowledged. I am no longer in my twenties, the wrinkles on my face and the grey in my hair show it, the scale agrees - so there is some validity to those thoughts. I knew something was off in my thinking, though, and when I brought my concerns to God, He revealed something so lovely to me,
"I am as attractive as I choose to be."
That could have meant that I need to diet and exercise more, but in my heart I knew it was WAY different than that. He helped me see that the definition of attractive was th...
Tackling The "If Only" Hurdle (O in the Coaching ROAD)
What if you could see your "if only" as a hurdle not a closed gate?
What's an "if only"? I'm glad you asked!
"If only's" are the mental obstacles that come up when you think about forward movement.
In Coach Training we categorize them in past, present, and future. They sound like this:
Past: If only I...
- grew up in a different family.
- hadn't gone through that trauma.
- didn't make that decision.
Present: If only I...
- had more money.
- had more time.
- could connect with that one person or org.
Future: If only I...
- had a better promo plan.
- knew how long it would last.
- knew it would work.
Here's the thing. "If only's" rob us of what could be. They are like a chasm; we can build bridges to get over them. "If only's" are excuses that have dug a rut in our thought patterns. They are the obstacles we come up against when we think about the goal we want to move toward.
We've been talking about the Coaching ROAD. First comes R- recognizing the focus we want to pursue. ...
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