How To Measure True Success?

There are a number of ways to measure success - maybe even an innumerable amount. 

The world measures success by affluence, power, fame, or skills. 

In God's kingdom, we measure it differently. Jesus said the "greatest" would be the servant of all. So, are believers supposed to measure success by how much we do for others? But wouldn't that be a "works" mentality? 

Paul says in Galatians that the fruit of living in the Spirit is love, joy, peace, etc. So, should we be measuring success by our fruit? 

In Coaching, it would be possible to measure success by whether or not SMART goals were effective in helping individuals reach their goals in a timely manner. Some would even define success simply as not failing.

Of course we should set goals, "without vision people perish(languish)", and there are plenty of scriptures about being lazy and about doing something wise with what has been given to us.

But here's the thing - our relationship with God is not, CAN NOT, be based on performan...

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3 Ways To Help Them Write Their Chapter

We are all writing our own stories. Each time we make a decision or avoid one, we are writing a new paragraph or starting a new chapter. 

Whether we like it or not. Each day adds to the story. Some parts are comfortably predictable. One of my favorite parts is the end of the day when I sit in our loveseat and press the recline button, and the footrest comes out. There's a sense of rest that brings a satisfying "Ahhhh."

Some chapters are long-awaited, where we've saved up and planned for them - like a baby, a vacation, or even retirement. Other chapters come as a shock - like a sudden career shift, a loss, or an accident. Some are a good surprise - like a new relationship, a windfall or gift of some sort, or a hoped resolution coming to pass.

All chapters have choices. 

Every story has a crisis. (Do you remember learning that in grade school?) Some crises come to us, and others are chosen, but every story has something that is happening in it. Every chapter is a small part of a bigg...

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The Great Commission IS Coaching?!

Matthew 28:19 is commonly referred to as the Great Commission. You know the verse, 

"Therefore, go and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit."

So - what's that got to do with Coaching?

Other versions of that verse say, "Go and make followers of all the people..." 

What Disciples and Followers have in common is that they are not stagnant. Followers by definition take steps and the word disciple shares the same root as the word discipline. 

Discipleship = forward movement. Being a disciple is not a one-time decision, it's a series of yes's as we connect with God and His pathway for our lives. 

It's not easy though. Being a disciple, or follower, means being intentional about discerning and then moving toward whatever God has for us personally. It's hard sometimes. 

While forgiveness and salvation are free to us, whatever God wants for our lives moving forward will likely involve a cost. We may need to forg

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10 Coaching Questions for Enneagram 4's

According to the Enneagram Institute, Fours are self-aware, sensitive, and reserved. They are emotionally honest, creative, and personal, but can also be moody and self-conscious. Withholding themselves from others due to feeling vulnerable and defective, they can also feel disdainful and exempt from ordinary ways of living. They typically have problems with melancholy, self-indulgence, and self-pity. At their Best: inspired and highly creative, they are able to renew themselves and transform their experiences.

We have named this type The Individualist because Fours maintain their identity by seeing themselves as fundamentally different from others. Fours feel that they are unlike other human beings, and consequently, that no one can understand them or love them adequately. They often see themselves as uniquely talented, possessing special, one-of-a-kind gifts, but also as uniquely disadvantaged or flawed. More than any other type, Fours are acutely aware of and focused on their perso...

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