Whose Job Is It to Actually Change?
It sounds loving. It often comes from a genuinely loving place. But it also happens to be the fastest way to keep someone dependent instead of helping them grow.
Ownership is the "O" in ROAD, and it might be the hardest letter of the four — because it asks you to care deeply about someone's outcome while refusing to carry it for them.
Care without carrying
There's a real tension here, and Scripture actually holds both sides of it. Galatians 6:2 tells us to "carry each other's burdens." A few verses later, Galatians 6:5 says "each one should carry their own load." Both are true at the same time. Support is real. But so is the fact that some things are simply not yours to carry.
Ownership is the practice of telling the difference — in the moment, in a real conversation — between
...This 3 Minute - 6 Question Quiz WILL Help!
Give yourself 1-5 points as directed for each line.
-I have a desire to help those around me move forward in their faith. [1= not really, 5= very much so]
-There are a couple of people in my life who keep talking to me about the same things over and over. [1= not a thing for me, 3= once in a while, 5= there are people I avoid for this reason]
-It seems like people want me to fix their problems or at least tell them what to do. [1= no one around me has stuff they are dearling with 5= There is so much stuff!]
-My schedule has plenty of margin. [1= I have time on my hands 5= It seems like there are more things I would like to do than I have time for.]
-I ask people insightful questions that consistently move them toward "Aha" moments. [1= I'm not sure 5= I wish I felt sure]
-i regularly care for people without carrying the weight of what they are going through. [1= It seems at times I care more for them than they care for themselves 5= Is that even possible?]
Tally your score and h...
Meet Eric: A Minister's Take On Coach Training!
Next up in our "Meet _________" series is my absolute favorite - my husband, Eric. He's been in this with me from the beginning, so I asked him a few questions.
How did you first hear about coaching?
I first heard about coaching from my wife, Cindy, who started Bridges Coaching. I must admit I did not understand it at first, and what I did not understand, I became skeptical about at first. I wanted to know how it came from a biblical foundation. Little did I know, Jesus used coaching regularly as He worked with His disciples in the Bible. I just needed to look for it!
What prompted you to take the training?Â
Because a large part of what I do in ministry involves caring for people, I was burned out. Eventually, I sought counseling help through a ministry called Care for Pastors in Orlando, Florida. My problem was that I was caring for people, but I was also carrying people. In time, the counseling and the coach training helped me let go of the ownership of a person’s problems and al...