“Agency” is the new buzzword we keep hearing in podcasts and even recently published books, but what does it really mean?
Here are some thoughts on agency, where it comes from, and what makes it so very valuable in our personal lives!
Ever hear of the series “Orange is the new black”? I don’t think I ever watched it once, but I found the title interesting. Basically, it meant that the criminals who once wore black every day were now wearing orange every day in prison. So, for them, orange became their new normal.
When I first started learning, and then blogging, about coaching the word “Ownership” was a regular topic and tag.
Agency is the new Ownership.
Agency means we have choices.
Most of you know I work full time for a church I love - Worship Center in Lancaster, PA.
Eric and I were not looking for a move when God surprised us with this chapter of our life about 5 years ago. (He's like that isn't He - full of surprises.) One of the questions we had to answer when we decided God was leading us here was what to do with Bridges Coaching. I/we had developed a number of trainings and workshops and didn't feel it was right to just dissolve Bridges.
God led me to make spaces for others to step into the active ministry roles I stepped out of when we moved. Sarah now is the primary course host for Coach Training and April works with the Destiny branch. Michelle champions the exclusive course of Next Level Coach training. Others facilitate peer pairs as needed. I love it when His plan is a win-win!
Last year, Alex and Delia Dienner launched a German version of Coaching Culture! Amazing! What's next? (Spanish??)
My role is to continue...
“How will you know?”
It’s probably my favorite coaching question out there.
"How will you know (what ___)," "how will you know (when ___)," "how will you know (how ___)."
When prompted by the Holy Spirit to ask that powerful question, it unlocks a potential path forward for the person sitting across from you.
Instead of listening to advice or guidance from a "coach," the "how will you know" question puts the ball completely in their corner.
So, how will you know when it’s time to sign up for coaching certification?
Or how will you know when it’s time to ask someone you lead if they’re ready to sign up for coaching certification?
There are only five days left to register for our upcoming coaching cohort and there's no better time than the present to ask yourself "How will I know if it's time?"
...In fact, you should probably think it through before you consider it.
It’s not easy changing a personal paradigm, and almost everyone needs to make major adjustments.
It’s costly, not just monetarily, but it will take time and effort. It’s intense.
To be honest, it’s humbling.
It’s one thing to affirm the concept in theory and another to put its values into regular practice.
BUT IT IS TOTALLY WORTH IT!
Coaching changed my life AND it has changed the people around me.
Here are some ways I have seen it actually accomplish end goals that would never have happened if I had not taken coach training.
“So, what do you do?”
A simple question asked of the woman sitting beside me at a wedding rehearsal over five years ago.
A simple question that launched me into the next thing God was calling me to in my coaching journey.
I am the bride’s childhood best friend. She, the groom’s sister-in-law. Now we journey together in this world of coaching… believing in the serendipity, or “God-incidence,” of that day… embracing the joy of walking alongside others as they seek change, growth, and transformation.
God continues to unfold my coaching journey one step at a time.
That moment five years ago introduced me to Cindy Scott and led me to Bridges Coaching. I began with the Destiny by Design course, and simply kept saying, “yes” to each next thing… Coaching Training, Accelerated Coach Training, being a peer pair facilitating coach, the NXL Advanced Coach Training, and various coaching opportunities along the way.
We believe that questions are powerful.
And we want to give you the opportunity to ask us some questions.
Unsure if you want to sign-up?
Curious if it works?
Feeling "led" to jump in?
We're excited to announce our first online open house specifically designed to answer your questions.
If you have questions or want to learn a little bit more about what Bridges Coaching has to offer, join us at our ZOOM Open House!
Be sure to mark your calendars for January 16, 10:00 a.m. EST!
You'll have the opportunity to meet the Coaching Culture cohort course host, facilitators, and potential peer partners! You can also hear from alumni, ask questions about the course and where Bridges is going and we will even throw in some thoughts about our other offering Destiny by Design!
So, if you're thinking about investing in making engaged disciples, Bridges Coach Training could make all the difference.
Coach Training isn’t for everyone.
There are some specific people groups who would not really benefit.
1. Those who are all set!
If you are knocking it out of the park in your personal and professional relationships and have nowhere to grow, coach training is not likely to benefit you.
2. Those who prefer solely to teach!
While there’s a place for teaching in the kingdom of God, in the continuum of growth, it is only at the beginning.
In Bridges Coaching we promote the leadership growth model of:
Telling > Teaching > Training > Trusting
If you are not able to encourage maturity and help the people in your life to grow in their own relationships with the Holy Spirit, then coach training is probably not for you.
3. Those who enjoy being needed!
It’s the classic, but on steroids! You can give a man a fish or teach him how to fish.
In coaching it sounds like this: You can give a man the answers, or you can help him learn to discern for himself.
If I’m honest, I totally didn’t get it.
I mean, I really didn’t get it.
I was way too busy to prioritize this right now. My leadership skills were fine for the time being. The Holy Spirit will lead me to say what I should say. This was like, thing No. 5 on my priority list. It’s just going to need to wait. Too busy.
Then I got it. And boy, oh boy, was I wrong.
Bridges coaching changed my life.
That’s a serious sentence that I just wrote. I understand that sentence carries a lot of weight. And I completely stand by what I wrote.
Bridges coaching changed my life because I simply gave it a chance.
It didn’t take long for me to realize that the coaching paradigm allowed me to be a better husband, a better dad, and a better church leader.
As a husband and dad, I considered myself a pretty good listener, but what I learned in coaching, was I could be an even better husband by being an active listener by truly being invested and asking questions. A true...
Maybe the better question is “Who do you know that doesn’t need this?”
Soul Care is so needed, likely this year more than ever.
Who hasn’t been consumed with adjusting plans or dealing with friends and family with differing opinions on social justice or politics? Or maybe someone you care for has lost their job, or been stressed way more than usual at work? Perhaps there’s a pastor you want to especially bless this year?
How about you? What do you do when you feel flat, or overwhelmed, sad, or fearful?
Whether you want to add this to your own list or purchase it for someone else, the Bridges Coaching Soul Care Retreat offers hope in a step-by-step plan to reconnect with God in a meaningful way.
The printable workbook journal and short videos make the plan easy to walk out as we share our real-life experiences and we prompt you to walk your journey toward replenishing your soul.
Eric and I wrote and then recorded this retreat after we went through a...
Man oh man, if you are like me you are ready for a New Year -- it’s time!
Especially if you are in a leadership role anywhere, you know -- it’s time!
It’s time to dust off some old initiatives, reinvigorate your team (which may be you and your children), and make some forward movement.
Our pastor reminds us weekly we were made on purpose for a purpose. But I’ll be honest, it has been a bit hard to hear that some Sundays this past year.
At times it has felt like the purpose was just to survive the day, another cancellation, another shutdown, or dread of all dreads, to actually try to navigate travel on an airplane.
Yet, here we are.
We’ve almost made it through 2020.
And you know what, I am willing to bet you are the stronger for it.
Mark Batterson, pastor of National Community Church in D.C. said recently, “We just got a master’s degree in leadership through all the adjustments needed to be made this past year.” I think he’s...
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