What If There Is An Angle You Aren't Clearly Seeing? (How Eric's Question Changed My Perspective)
In case you missed the memo I recently completed the first draft of a dating book I have been working on for about ten years! Before Bridges Coaching I worked at a Bible College as a dean and learned lots of things about how to - and how not to- date well!
I started the book in that era and then launched Bridges coaching so the book was put on the back burner for a while, then we had a surprise chapter and moved to PA where we both work at a wonderful church and Bridges became what I did on the side, so the book was my side side - if there is such a thing.
So here's the perspective-shifting thought.
My husband, Eric, was talking about my completing the draft and he said "Actually, I'm glad it took you this long. You have been really good with having boundaries about how much you work. What if you had pushed yourself to get it done sooner and that really cost our family or our marriage?"
WOW!
He was right!
I felt immediate relief for all the guilt I had felt with...
What's happening? Here's 4 Clarifying Questions To Assess Just About Anything
[Tips & Tools Series]
We've all been there.
Whether you are hoping to help someone else or trying to figure things out for yourself, being puzzled or confused about how to process something is difficult.
In Tom Paterson's STRATOP process he uses 4 clarifying questions that can bring clarity set anyone up for success.
I've personally used these questions to better understand everything from relational interactions to evaluating organizational structure. They are especially valuable for reviewing events and systems and can be used for family, ministry, or work interactions.
BUT WAIT - before you read any further. Pause a moment and pick an actual item you would like to assess. It could be just about anything. Think of a relationship, situation, or even an event where you would like to have a better understanding of what is going on.
Okay - got it?
Now you can read on!
1) What's right?
Verbalizing what is good about the situation is a healthy and valuable...