Have you ever been triggered by something or someone? That’s where you feel like you had an emotional reaction that was not healthy. Maybe it was an overreaction, or maybe you clammed up, but either way, you know you were not walking in God’s best plan for your response.
Triggering is angsty. It’s not God’s way but is often more our norm when storms come up in our life.
Triggering hurts us and hurts those around us.
We’re all human so we’ve all built neuro pathways for how we react when certain events happen. It’s like they prompt us to be angry, or aggressive, or maybe we swing the other way and feel depressed, sullen, or hopeless.
Either way, we feel stuck.
We know we don’t want to respond in that way. We hope there is a kingdom way, a healing possible, but we aren’t sure what to do next.
Feeling hurt, misunderstood, confused or angry, and frustrated doesn’t have to be our norm!
Do you believe in MONSTERS?!
It can be easy just to pretend there are no monsters. We can avoid dealing with negative things in our lives, or we can place the blame on ourselves and wallow in condemnation.
1 Peter 5:8 says,
Control yourselves and be careful! The devil, your enemy, goes around like a roaring lion looking for someone to eat. (NCV)
Other versions say "devour", whatever version you use it's clear we have an enemy who wants to hurt us. To ruin us even. To place us in a state of fear, anger, or shame that discredits us and isolates us from others and from God.
I think each of us is susceptible to different "monsters". We each have different internal designs that cause us to be susceptible to different negative thought patterns that take us into scary places.
What do your monsters look like?
In full disclosure, I deal with all kinds of lies...
Ever feel like someone put you on a hard pause when that "thing" happened? It's like they can't let you move forward. You feel marked forever as not able to do whatever you messed up on.
Or maybe you put yourself on a hard pause and said you will never try "that" again?
Or one more, maybe have you put someone else on a hard pause and in your heart thought "they can't really..."?
At Bridges Coaching, we call this Freeze Framing. It's like when you hit the pause button on a video and the person is stuck as they are, frozen, not able to move forward. The swirling thoughts are all negative and limiting. They don't allow for growth, change, or transformation.
I'll be honest. I have done it myself. I've wondered if I could finish projects, learn new skills, incorporate new habits, be more thoughtful, have patience, or be more...
I'm embarrassed to say that I've freeze framed others as well. I've not asked them to do something they weren't great at the first time, or avoided getting...
We all have them.
Limiting beliefs that nay-say to us whenever we want to move forward.
They mock us with things like:
If we listen to these voices our potential future, our intended contribution to the kingdom of God can be thwarted before it even gets started.
Identifying what these limiting beliefs (lies) are and then learning how to diminish or eliminate them is the difference between having a dream and actually seeing a dream become a reality.
Limiting beliefs are lies that cloud our vision of ourselves, our circumstances, and how God wants to mee us right where we are at!
"Good" lies are like good poison. They seem good. They taste "right", but in the end, they can kill you.
Let me explain.
You may actually not have what you need to get started, but...
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