The "Sexy" Coaching Core Competency #1
Coaching, as an industry, is not just a loosey-goosey way of conversational growth. There are specific guidelines called "Competencies" that are the foundation for what coaching entails, both in the secular applications and in Christian arenas.
The gold standard for coaching is the International Coaching Federation (ICF), they set the standards for credentialing worldwide. Bridges Coaching has chosen to align with Christian Coaches Network International (CCNI) which extrapolates all the ICF Coaching Core Competencies sharing how they are Biblical-based and used to forward the kingdom.
At Bridges Coaching we believe coaching makes disciples not dependents and in this coaching competencies series, we will dig into why we feel so strongly about that statement.
The first Core Competency is "Demonstrates Ethical Practice". In know, "Sexy" right? But the truth is that without ethical practice, coaching is just loosey-goosey.
Not everyone who says they are a coach actually knows what coac...
Guest Blog: Applying Working Genius To Your Real Life
My daughter Natalie has been leaning into the Working Genius model and wrote this blog with a real-life story and application. If you are an inventor, galvanizer, or discerner this will be of special interest, but don't just think personally - you coach, work with, and have family members who are inventors, galvanizers, and discerners too! Hope you get as much out of it as I did!
[That's Natalie and her husband, Mike, in the picture.] Here's her blog:
Have you been reading the genius blogs and wondering how can this apply to real life? What if I am the only participant at my workplace or in my family who is interested in this topic? Especially if your genius is not galvanizing.
Fear not, I am a galvanizer. Wait discerners, don’t go anywhere… this blog is actually for you. As an inventor and galvanizer, I am attracted to discerners… my husband, several former bosses, and many of my closest friends. Often times I have felt that I cause them distress, sometimes communicated clearly ...
Is The Scale The Answer?
What your scale tells you is just data. It gives you a fact - the honest truth about your weight.
The scale can be your friend if it tells you something you like, or your enemy if it doesn't. But the truth is the scale is just a tool to help you see what really is.
For me the scale is motivation!
If I like what I see it is motivation to keep up the good work, and if I don't like what I see it is a reminder that true change will take intentionality.
That's the bottom line really.
Change rarely happens by accident. It's hardly ever a surprise.
If I don't like what I see I have two options, well three maybe.
1) I can choose to do something about what I see.
This will include making a plan for an alternative outcome. It will likely include some trial and error, some intentionality and grit, and will probably require a realistic look at a reasonable timeline for effecting change.
2) I can avoid seeing and just not weigh myself anymore.
This plan will avoid acknowledgment of anyth...
Simple Success: Is Content Deficit Really The Problem?
In these days of Google, kindle, and podcasts on demand, we live in a content-rich environment. if you want to know more about something all you need to do is ask SirI or Alexa!
I'm not sure if I have ever heard anyone wistfully say, "If only I knew where or how to get more information on that..."
I know a lot more than I do.
What if a plan is really what is needed? Here are a two actual (and perhaps too personal) examples.
Here's what I know - what I have done - and what I am doing now.
I know sugar is not great for my ultimate weight loss goal, but knowing and doing something about it are two different things. When I took an honest assessment I found I had way too many exceptions for why I should go ahead and have that latte or late-night snack. I don't need more information about sugar, I need an actual plan to remove it or reduce it from my life..
My current SMART goal is that I can have sugar in my morning coffee, but then I need to lay off treating myself at other tim...
Next Coach Training Cohort Forming Now
The focus of this blog is usually to bring a reminder or value add regarding coaching culture in real life. We try to share from different perspectives how coaching can be used in different arenas.
Today's post will be different. (If you have already taken coach training, could I ask that you forward this to someone who would benefit?)
This post is time-sensitive since our next coaching cohort registration closes soon! I feel compelled to share a little about what coach training actually is - who would be interested, what is included, what you can expect, how much it costs, and most importantly the timing involved.
Who would be interested?
You! If you want to learn more about growing in your faith journey and helping others to grow in theirs, coach training could be your best next step. If you have relationships in your life where you would like to have more significant conversations, coach training will give you tools to upgrade your connections.
What is included?
- 3 Group ...
What's In Your Next Chapter?
Every good story has a plot.
Every great movie has a crisis that needs to be resolved.
But there are bad stories and bad movies too. The top two complaints are either that it is boring or does not end well.
What kind of a story will this next year be for you?
Will be boring? More of the same 'ol, same 'ol? Will it have a sad ending, or one that does not resolve a crisis, or accomplish a great goal?
There is a blank page waiting for you to write on it.
Coaching helps people write the story they want to read at the end of the year.
If you would like help with your story consider coaching from one of our Associate Coaches or get our Traction book for some self-guided coaching.
Or if you want to help people write their stories well, Coach Training will give you the tools to help people move toward their preferred future! The next cohort starts soon! (Click the "I'm Interested" button for more info!)
'23 Reflection Questions & '24 Vision Questions
I wrote some end-of-the-year questions for our church and wanted to share them here as well.
Check out these thought-provoking questions and conversation prompts for this holiday season! Use them on your own, in a family group, or at your New Year's party.
2023 Reflections:
- What one event stands out to you that marks this last year – maybe something you are grateful for, something you overcame, or a little of both?
- What relationships were significant for you this last year?
- When did you have the most fun?
- Was there a verse or phrase that was especially meaningful?
- What fruit of the spirit marked your year? (Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness, Self-Control).
2024 Vision:
- What brings you joy and how could you do more of it in this next year?
- Who is one person you could invest in this next year and how could that make a difference in their life?
- What accomplishment would you like to start or complete this next year?
- Where is one pla ...
Which Way Do You Naturally Tip?
Sometimes the holidays highlight our stuff!
If we tend to say "yes" too frequently, this time of the year can find us being overbooked and potentially facing gift debt or maybe just gift guilt. It can be hard to set boundaries or see when enough is enough.
OR maybe your default is to say "no" and you struggle with being Scrouge-ish or hermit-like.
Whether you naturally tip toward saying "yes" too much or saying "no" and missing out, God has good gifts in store FOR you this season!
My current screen saver has the picture above on it. it's there as a reminder in this season that all I need to do is slow down and breathe in the truth that Jesus IS the gift. I don't mean to be cliche at all. I am experiencing new levels of calm and peace amid all the stuff because I am learning to choose my focus more and more.
I can choose to be overwhelmed about making the very best gift choices, OR I can ask for His presence to guide me and I can give it my best go.
Sometimes I think we just ge...
Dealing With Holiday Overwelm!
There's so much to do to prepare for the holidays!
Each layer deserves (maybe even demands) your attention - the travel plans, the gifting, the food. And then there's the relational connections - the upcoming conversations, the desire to make good memories together and not to have rubs or jabs or controversy.
This most wonderful time of the year can easily become not-so-wonderful...
So, what's a person to do? What would it give you to feel like you had a handle on this season and it wasn't just happening to you?
Here's some tips to move toward experiencing peace on earth and joy to the world!
1) Identify your angst.
- is it that you just need to take time to get organized? (*scroll down a bit for a plan)
- are you feeling the pressure of guilt or obligation?
- is materialism clouding your view?
2) Take it to Jesus
Oh, how He wants to meet you in this season. In every season really. He wants to clarify what is unclear. He wants to bring peace where there is pressure. Calm in t...
Meaningful Gifts
Who's on your gift list? Maybe we can help you with a meaningful gift that could shift someone's life, helping them find traction on their faith journey!
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Got any singles on your list? Recently released Playing with Matches is a guidebook of sorts for Christian dating principles. It is chock full of real stories and includes practical and authentic advice for how to navigate an ever-changing world with age-old faith-based principles. Might be the best $15 you spend this season.
Love to give someone the gift of coaching. Here's the best bang for your buck! At less than $3...