How are you doing? I mean really - how are you doing?
Eric and I have been trying to take stock of our soul's well being each day in all of this by asking each other for three feeling words.
They are usually a mix.
Confused, overwhelmed, and helpless get in there sometimes, but so do committed, overcoming, and hopeful.
Can I just be honest? In our lifetimes there has never been anything like this. So, we have the opportunity of a lifetime to lean into God like never before.
I promise He is there for us!!
John 16:33b says, "Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world."
The #1 need people have is Soul Care!
If your heart is at peace, you can get through anything, so if you are right with God then what's happening externally has less impact on you than what's happening internally.
Eric came home from a walk the other day and said he thought people would really benefit from the Soul Care retreat...
If you’ve never led a group online these tips can help! (Many work for live groups as well.)
1) Pray for your group as you prepare. Even if you are preparing on the fly, shoot up a breathe prayer for God to guide.
2) Open up with a greeting and give a quick overview of what is going to happen.
For us at Worship Center - that’s easy! We walk through the pathway provided just after the message notes in the app. (Here's an example.)
3) Inform, or remind, people of a couple best practices.
(I LOVE the chat option for online groups. It provides an opportunity for everyone to participate at the same time. Try using it with a question like: “Of the three things mentioned, which one stands out to you and why?” Everyone can...
What an odd time we are all in! Few would have seen this coming and yet here we are.
I don’t know about you, but when this all first came down I dreamed this could be a time of leaning into some changes I had been considering.
Okay I’ll be vulnerable….
What I wanted to do was to get serious/consistent about logging my food daily, make a new habit of doing my physical therapy, set some intentional time aside for Bridges development (my side hustle), send out a handwritten card each day and be intentional about connecting with family during this season.
What actually happened, so far, was extra time with family…
Here’s the 3 reasons I think motivation is lacking in this season:
1) A new normal syphons a lot of energy. Even though most of us gave up a commute, depending on our situations we now have other things on our plate – online everything, meal planning, taking care of kids, checking in with compromised family members.
Needing to be...
When I was learning about writing I was taught to treat each topic like a reporter would and ask all the questions: Who, What, When, Where, Why and How. Let’s look at this situation with those questions in mind.
Where is God in this?
John 16:32-33 “Listen to me; a time is coming when you will be scattered, each to your own home. That time is now here. You will leave me alone, but I am never really alone, because the Father is with me. I told you these things so that you can have peace in me. In this world you will have trouble, but be brave! I have defeated the world.
Jesus was referring to the early church, but the echo of His presence being with us remains throughout all time.
God is WITH us! That is where He is. He has not abandoned us.
He’s not worried,
He is not overwhelmed.
He always wants to use all things for good. (Romans 8:28)
How could this be used for good?
“Coaching” is a buzzword in today’s society – business and ministry alike, but what does it really mean?
In Bridges Coaching we talk about how coaching gets you from here to there, like Cinderella’s coach or stagecoaches in the Wild West. There are a lot of different destinies people have as goals and many different types of coaches as well.
Here’s three types we are NOT talking about when referring to life coaching.
1) Teachers – Sports coaches are a type of this model. They are teachers of sorts, educating their athletes in best practices. Teaching them the plays necessary to win.
2) Consultants – Many business leaders use the word coaching as synonymous with consulting. They hire someone with a particular expertise or education in a certain field to direct an initiative. A consultant may help a business focus on a lagging area or on a new enterprise. They pass on their skill or knowledge.
A health or fitness coach would likely...
I kinda love that God gave us free will and I kinda hate it. I really want to do the right thing(s), but sometimes I am not exactly sure what that means.
I’m not talking about moral decisions, getting rid of bad habits or starting good ones, I’m talking about choices that have to do with careers or relationships, where there could be two or more good options on the table.
There’s a third choice too.
And that’s the one we’re going to focus on today. Sometimes when the possibilities are foggy, the future is too…
It’s easy to get stuck in decision fatigue and just put off making a choice at all. This is especially true when we are thinking about pursuing a new dream.
Possible foci could be:
Analysis paralysis can keep us stuck where we are...
Living your best life doesn’t just happen, connecting with God, processing our past and preparing for our future usually requires intentional focus! Choosing good questions helps facilitate connection between what’s happening inside of us and how we live our lives.
Use these questions on your own, with your spouse or small group, friends or family. Pick a few or use them all if you feel moved.
Start with prayer – ask God to highlight what He wants you to remember from this past year.
We may not know exactly what this hunter is shooting at but we’re all pretty sure it is something? He’s likely not just randomly launching arrows into the woods.
While not all men are hunters, and not all hunters are men, in my experience most men do have a target in mind when they are doing just about anything.
Take shopping for example.
Most men want to identify the item that is supposed to be acquired, and then they want to get in, find it, and get out. If however, the “target” is to take a walk and hang out with their wife, then perhaps strolling through the mall would be possible, but God help the woman who stops to look at something on sale. “Are we walking or shopping?” will likely go through the man’s head, if not come out his mouth.
(Disclaimer: don’t email me and tell me you and your spouse are not like this. Results may vary, but a quick google search or research of any kind will tell you that men’s mind’s are...
Taxi, Uber, and Lyft drivers have a lot in common with good coaches!
When you are looking for a ride somewhere the first question is always, “Where to?” Good coaching is like that as well.
In the Next Level Bridges Coach Training course we have been talking about the importance of the Coaching Agreement.
(That’s coach-speak for defining the goal or focus of the conversation)
Just like when you hire a driver you have to have a destination for the ride to be successful, in a coaching session, it needs to be clear where you are going. This is the shared responsibility of both the person being coached and the coach.
If the coach doesn’t hear a clearly defined destination, it’s his/her job to ask the kinds of questions that will help define where the conversation should go.
Remember, the conversation is supposed to be coaching the client toward the destination!
If we don’t have a clearly defined destination we are just wandering around, both in our...
I love my church! And I am delighted with the message-based discussion model we offer to promote active journeying with God and His plan for each of our lives. We have developed a 4 D model that we use to explain this pathway.
Let’s dissect this for a bit.
Discussion leads to Discovery. There are two ways this works.
First, when we discuss we have to choose words to explain what we are thinking. I don’t know about you but there are many times when I talk about something and end up working out the whole situation just because I am verbalizing. It goes something like this, “I'm dealing with _________ in my life right now. It’s tricky because__________. I’m not sure what to do, but I wonder if I should __________. You know what? That actually might work. Thanks so much for talking about this with me.” The other person may, or may not, have had much input, but just the fact that I had a safe place to talk made all the difference.
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