How should we grow? How will we know?
This is a time of redefining norms for our world and for the church.
As we move through this season - people are coming back to church in person, or not. People are getting back to relationships they once invested in, or not. People are sticking with new habits they formed, or not. People are pursuing plans they once had, or not.
There's a lot to navigate.
For me personally, I would love it if God just gave us a step-by-step plan that we could follow, and then we would KNOW we were doing "it" right!
I would love that full confidence and embrace the challenge to do all the things.
Turns out that is not how He designed our faith walk to be.
Well, not exactly.
The truth is He does have a step-by-step plan for us, but it is an individual path. You probably know the verse as well as I do, but Psalm 119:105 says, "Your word is a lamp to guide my feet and a light for my path."
I wish He would just give us a...
Ever wish you had the golden question?
The single bullet question to clarify everything?
Well, today is your lucky day!
This question is too easy, but the hardest question you'll ever answer, and one you will be asking and answering the rest of your life.
True coaching, for yourself or others, is based on this one single probe!
2 Thessalonians 1:11-12 spells it out for us!
"So we keep on praying for you, asking our God to enable you to live a life worthy of his call. May he give you the power to accomplish all the good things your faith prompts you to do. Then the name of our Lord Jesus will be honored because of the way you live, and you will be honored along with him. This is all made possible because of the grace of our God and Lord, Jesus Christ."
Did you see it?
WHAT IS YOUR FAITH PROMPTING YOU TO DO?!
This passage is so beautiful and SO CHALLENGING!
Let's break it down a bit. There are two kinds of prompts.
1) General prompts - these are for all...
As I sat down to write this blog many times, I ended up getting interrupted by one of my 4 girls, my phone reminding me of the demands of life… or the laundry buzzer cutting through any ounce of concentration.
Here I am though at 12:08 am determined to blog away. It’s finally quiet and time to introduce myself.
I could tell you about my really awesome husband, our girls that keep life exciting, the different jobs I work from home or the other important things (well, I sure think they are important) that I do.
But, really, if there is one thing I want people to hear about, it’s how God poured His love into my heart at a young age, won my affection for life and silenced all wondering in my seeking teenage girl’s heart. He laid a solid foundation of acceptance that has stood strong through many storms.
Because I have experienced such security, I can’t help but want to see others enjoy that freedom as well. What a privilege it is to be loved...
Saboteurs whisper to us all, they sound like friends, they seem wise, but they infiltrate our minds like a poison that tastes sweet.
Discipleship saboteurs say things like,
The best poison is only a small percent deadly, but if you take it in you will eventually die...
Using coaching as the Biblical way of discipleship helps people build their own relationship with God.
Coach training can teach you how!
Saboteurs whisper their hopelessness on the other side of coaching as well. Coaches have helped me discern many of the following as limiting...
“Coaching?! I bet I’d be great at coaching! I love when people come to me for the answers to figure out their life. Because, to be honest, most people’s lives are messed up and I usually know what they should do...”
I look back and laugh now, but I’m pretty sure that was basically my thought when I first heard about coaching. People who are bad at managing their life hire someone to manage it for them, right??
Boy, did I have some perspectives shift over the next few years!
Let me tell you a little of my coaching journey:
I took my first coaching course, Coaching Culture, because of a desire to help other people. But I needed help first.
Even Jesus had to answer these age-old questions.
In coaching, we often focus on the first question. We help people discern a goal and then make SMART goals to move toward that goal.
BUT, what if we are missing a key element?
Imagine Jesus as a young adult. Let's say He is 23 and He is fully God and fully man. He is capable of miracles. He knows his mission is to bring the kingdom of God to mankind - to change the way people relate to God from His time forward.
What a mission?!
I would have been anxious to get going!
I would have jumped the gun!
He was sure of His calling. He had an important destiny. He waited on His Father for the right timing.
I often rush....I want to move things forward so badly that I often pre-empt the perfect timing of God. Ahhh, to know His voice and discern His will, not just in the destination but in the timing!
"Jesus said to his...
We all have them... Conundrums are "a confusing and difficult problem or question."
That's the core of coaching really - helping people through the stuff of life.
Every good movie has a plotline with a believable crisis. Yet, in real life, we don't seem to welcome conundrums.
James 1:2-5 says, "My brothers and sisters, when you have many kinds of troubles, you should be full of joy, because you know that these troubles test your faith, and this will give you patience. Let your patience show itself perfectly in what you do. Then you will be perfect and complete and will have everything you need. But if any of you needs wisdom, you should ask God for it. He is generous to everyone and will give you wisdom without criticizing you."
Just like the enigma had a different code every time - God wants to work with each of us individually. He has a key code He wants to offer for each situation.
Honestly, I'm not a big fan...
What was God thinking when He gave us free will?
He knew we would mess up. He could foresee that all of us would miss the mark of perfection. It was a super risky choice.
When God made humans He made them different than the animals. Let's take a quick look at this passage from James 1:17-25 (highlights mine for further reference)
Whatever is good and perfect is a gift coming down to us from God our Father, who created all the lights in the heavens. He never changes or casts a shifting shadow. He chose to give birth to us by giving us his true word. And we, out of all creation, became his prized possession.
Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires. So get rid of all the filth and evil in your lives, and humbly accept the word God has planted in your hearts, for it has the power to save your...
Jesus Coached Even After...
We talked about the Emmaus Road experience this week at our church, and last week when we were preparing I saw Jesus coaching – again – even after the resurrection.
Read with me and pay special attention to where Jesus asked questions when He could have just revealed taught directly through teaching. (Watch where I highlight in bold and italicized font.)
That same day two of Jesus’ followers were walking to the village of Emmaus, seven miles from Jerusalem. As they walked along they were talking about everything that had happened. As they talked and discussed these things, Jesus himself suddenly came and began walking with them. But God kept them from recognizing him.
He asked them, “What are you discussing so intently as you walk along?” (Did Jesus really not know? I think He offered them a moment of awareness as He asked.)
They stopped short, sadness written across their...
You asked for it and now it's here!
Traction is the personal workbook version of the many coaching principles found in Bridges Coaching. It's designed to be used by an individual, a couple, or a team with prompts taking you down the Bridges Coaching ROAD.
R - Recognition
The process starts off with an assessment tool guiding you toward where to put your focus next.
O - Ownership
Then, there are awareness questions that help you own your current life and your future!
A - Action Steps
SMART goals aren't just a buzzword for the business world! They really work and you can use them anywhere!
D - Dedication
Maintain your gain with these simple tips.
Don't stall out, get stale, or stay stuck!
This is the best bang-for-your-buck we know of in the coaching world! It's less expensive than one coaching session!
If you want a taste of the coaching paradigm, this book is for you.
If you're intent on moving forward in your faith journey, this book is for you.
Get tips from Cindy a few times a month, and learn about new opportunities grow in your coaching skills!