Why Female Coaches Need To Be Attractive!

coaching coaching culture Feb 19, 2021

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The truth is ALL coaches need to be attractive!

"Attractive", at its core, includes the concept of drawing toward or wanting to be near.

We probably all know someone who is gorgeous on the outside but is not someone we really want to spend time with. On the other hand, there are people in our lives that make us feel valuable, loved, and interesting. We want to spend time with them. We are attracted to them.

Who is like that for you?  You know what I mean? You are "attracted" to them because they care about you. They ask you questions about your life, your interests, your thoughts, your nexts...

My brother-in-law, Mark, comes to mind for me. He is a successful businessman and could spend his time talking about himself or recent accomplishments, but for as long as I have known him he has always made the conversation be about the other person. He seems truly intrigued by how others think and live. (That's probably at least one key to his success.)

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But Really, How Will You Know When It Is Time?

Well...

“How will you know?”

It’s probably my favorite coaching question out there.

"How will you know (what ___)," "how will you know (when ___)," "how will you know (how ___)."

When prompted by the Holy Spirit to ask that powerful question, it unlocks a potential path forward for the person sitting across from you. 

Instead of listening to advice or guidance from a "coach," the "how will you know" question puts the ball completely in their corner. 

So, how will you know when it’s time to sign up for coaching certification?

Or how will you know when it’s time to ask someone you lead if they’re ready to sign up for coaching certification?

There are only five days left to register for our upcoming coaching cohort and there's no better time than the present to ask yourself "How will I know if it's time?"

If you want to grow as a person, empower an achieving direct report, or make a faith-filled disciple, you should walk with them as they...

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Coach Training Isn't Easy -- But It Is Totally Worth It!

...In fact, you should probably think it through before you consider it.

It’s not easy changing a personal paradigm, and almost everyone needs to make major adjustments.

It’s costly, not just monetarily, but it will take time and effort. It’s intense.

To be honest, it’s humbling.

It’s one thing to affirm the concept in theory and another to put its values into regular practice.

BUT IT IS TOTALLY WORTH IT!

Coaching changed my life AND it has changed the people around me.

Here are some ways I have seen it actually accomplish end goals that would never have happened if I had not taken coach training.

  • Interactions with family are different now.
    * Marriage: One of the best surprises in my coach training was how it affected my marriage. I didn’t see that coming as I simply intended to use coaching in ministry, but what a wonderful asset it is to be able to love my husband more by listening well, believing in him, and hearing how the Holy Spirit is...
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Serendipity Brought Us Together. Is It Calling You? (Guest Blog by Michelle Pavasars)

“So, what do you do?”

A simple question asked of the woman sitting beside me at a wedding rehearsal over five years ago.

A simple question that launched me into the next thing God was calling me to in my coaching journey.

I am the bride’s childhood best friend. She, the groom’s sister-in-law. Now we journey together in this world of coaching… believing in the serendipity, or “God-incidence,” of that day… embracing the joy of walking alongside others as they seek change, growth, and transformation.

God continues to unfold my coaching journey one step at a time.

That moment five years ago introduced me to Cindy Scott and led me to Bridges Coaching. I began with the Destiny by Design course, and simply kept saying, “yes” to each next thing… Coaching Training, Accelerated Coach Training, being a peer pair facilitating coach, the NXL Advanced Coach Training, and various coaching opportunities along the way.

Learning...

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Join Our Zoom Open House!

We believe that questions are powerful. 

And we want to give you the opportunity to ask us some questions.

Unsure if you want to sign-up?

Curious if it works?

Feeling "led" to jump in? 

We're excited to announce our first online open house specifically designed to answer your questions.

If you have questions or want to learn a little bit more about what Bridges Coaching has to offer, join us at our ZOOM Open House!

Be sure to mark your calendars for January 16, 10:00 a.m. EST!

The link to join us is right here.

You'll have the opportunity to meet the Coaching Culture cohort course host, facilitators, and potential peer partners! You can also hear from alumni, ask questions about the course and where Bridges is going and we will even throw in some thoughts about our other offering Destiny by Design!

So, if you're thinking about investing in making engaged disciples, Bridges Coach Training could make all the difference.

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3 Groups Of People Who Should NOT Take Coach Training

Coach Training isn’t for everyone.

There are some specific people groups who would not really benefit.

1. Those who are all set!

If you are knocking it out of the park in your personal and professional relationships and have nowhere to grow, coach training is not likely to benefit you.

2. Those who prefer solely to teach!

While there’s a place for teaching in the kingdom of God, in the continuum of growth, it is only at the beginning.

In Bridges Coaching we promote the leadership growth model of:
Telling > Teaching > Training > Trusting 

If you are not able to encourage maturity and help the people in your life to grow in their own relationships with the Holy Spirit, then coach training is probably not for you.

3. Those who enjoy being needed!

It’s the classic, but on steroids! You can give a man a fish or teach him how to fish.

In coaching it sounds like this: You can give a man the answers, or you can help him learn to discern for himself.

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If I'm Honest - I Didn't Get It At First...

If I’m honest, I totally didn’t get it.

I mean, I really didn’t get it.

I was way too busy to prioritize this right now. My leadership skills were fine for the time being. The Holy Spirit will lead me to say what I should say. This was like, thing No. 5 on my priority list. It’s just going to need to wait. Too busy.

Then I got it. And boy, oh boy, was I wrong.

Bridges coaching changed my life.

That’s a serious sentence that I just wrote. I understand that sentence carries a lot of weight. And I completely stand by what I wrote.

Bridges coaching changed my life because I simply gave it a chance.

It didn’t take long for me to realize that the coaching paradigm allowed me to be a better husband, a better dad, and a better church leader.

As a husband and dad, I considered myself a pretty good listener, but what I learned in coaching, was I could be an even better husband by being an active listener by truly being invested and asking questions. A true...

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Is It Time? Set Yourself Up For What's Next! (Guest Blog by Eric Scott)

Man oh man, if you are like me you are ready for a New Year -- it’s time!

Especially if you are in a leadership role anywhere, you know -- it’s time!

It’s time to dust off some old initiatives, reinvigorate your team (which may be you and your children), and make some forward movement.

Our pastor reminds us weekly we were made on purpose for a purpose. But I’ll be honest, it has been a bit hard to hear that some Sundays this past year.

At times it has felt like the purpose was just to survive the day, another cancellation, another shutdown, or dread of all dreads, to actually try to navigate travel on an airplane.

Yet, here we are.

We’ve almost made it through 2020.

And you know what, I am willing to bet you are the stronger for it.

Mark Batterson, pastor of National Community Church in D.C. said recently, “We just got a master’s degree in leadership through all the adjustments needed to be made this past year.” I think he’s...

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BREAKING NEWS: Can We Really Trust Coaching? (Not really... and here's why)

So, does this headline surprise you?!

Here’s why we can’t really trust coaching. (I know it will sound “churchy” but I need to say it.) We can really only trust God!

*HOWEVER*

God is trustworthy!

Here’s what Jesus thought about coaching.

John 14: 16-17 says, “And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Advocate, who will never leave you. He is the Holy Spirit, who leads into all truth. The world cannot receive him, because it isn’t looking for him and doesn’t recognize him. But you know him, because he lives with you now and later will be in you.

Now is that time! The Holy Spirit is available to live within us!

When people are looking for answers and we as leaders give them what we think they should do, we bear the risk of becoming a mediator or “God-man” in their lives. This does not mean there isn’t a place for teaching - of course, there is, but coaches help people walk out what they have...

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4 Reasons Why "What's at stake?" May Be Your Best Next Question

"What’s at stake?"

That’s a great question!

It could be the single straw that is the tipping point between ideation and implementation.

There are 4 basic reasons “What’s at stake?” could be the lever needed for forward movement.

Never trying.

Sometimes realizing what will not happen if the idea is kept in the “dream cloud” is just what is needed to help someone get started and stop procrastinating.

Rightsizing the risk.

Recognizing that if the outcome doesn’t end exactly where hoped, the forward movement is at the least good research, and at worst an idea can be crossed off the list to make room for more possibilities to try.

Naming the loss.

Someone needs whatever it is that is being considered! Realizing what could happen if this idea isn’t carried out could be just the motivation fuel to get the motion started.

Regret.

You’ll never know if you never try.

Sometimes the big idea works. Sometimes it doesn’t, but...

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