The not-so-simple Secret To Knowing What To Do When!
Even Jesus had to answer these age-old questions.Â
   "What should I do?" & "When should I do it?"
In coaching, we often focus on the first question. We help people discern a goal and then make SMART goals to move toward that goal.Â
BUT, what if we are missing a key element?Â
TIMING!
Imagine Jesus as a young adult. Let's say He is 23 and He is fully God and fully man. He is capable of miracles. He knows his mission is to bring the kingdom of God to mankind - to change the way people relate to God from His time forward.
What a mission?!
I would have been anxious to get going!Â
I would have jumped the gun!Â
He was sure of His calling. He had an important destiny. He waited on His Father for the right timing.
I often rush....I want to move things forward so badly that I often pre-empt the perfect timing of God. Ahhh, to know His voice and discern His will, not just in the destination but in the timing!
"Jesus said to his brothers, “The right time for me has not yet come, b...
Conundrums, Code-breaking, and Coaching!
We all have them... Conundrums are "a confusing and difficult problem or question."
That's the core of coaching really - helping people through the stuff of life.
Every good movie has a plotline with a believable crisis. Yet, in real life, we don't seem to welcome conundrums.Â
James 1:2-5 says, "My brothers and sisters, when you have many kinds of troubles, you should be full of joy, because you know that these troubles test your faith, and this will give you patience. Let your patience show itself perfectly in what you do. Then you will be perfect and complete and will have everything you need. But if any of you needs wisdom, you should ask God for it. He is generous to everyone and will give you wisdom without criticizing you."
Just like the enigma had a different code every time - God wants to work with each of us individually. He has a key code He wants to offer for each situation.Â
Good coaching = A conundrum + Codebreaking
Good coaching comes alongside someone to help the...
Five Convincing Reasons Coaching is Christlike!
Honestly, I'm not a big fan...
What was God thinking when He gave us free will?
He knew we would mess up. He could foresee that all of us would miss the mark of perfection. It was a super risky choice.
When God made humans He made them different than the animals. Let's take a quick look at this passage from James 1:17-25 (highlights mine for further reference)
Whatever is good and perfect is a gift coming down to us from God our Father, who created all the lights in the heavens. He never changes or casts a shifting shadow. He chose to give birth to us by giving us his true word. And we, out of all creation, became his prized possession.
Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires. So get rid of all the filth and evil in your lives, and humbly accept the word God has planted in your hearts, for it has the power to save your souls.
But don’t just list...
Jesus Coached Even After...
Jesus Coached Even After...
We talked about the Emmaus Road experience this week at our church, and last week when we were preparing I saw Jesus coaching – again – even after the resurrection.
Read with me and pay special attention to where Jesus asked questions when He could have just revealed taught directly through teaching. (Watch where I highlight in bold and italicized font.)
Luke 14:13-27
That same day two of Jesus’ followers were walking to the village of Emmaus, seven miles from Jerusalem. As they walked along they were talking about everything that had happened. As they talked and discussed these things, Jesus himself suddenly came and began walking with them. But God kept them from recognizing him.
He asked them, “What are you discussing so intently as you walk along?” (Did Jesus really not know? I think He offered them a moment of awareness as He asked.)
They stopped short, sadness written across their faces. Then one of them, Cleopas, replied, “You must be the only p...
Traction! Don't stall out, get stale, or stay stuck!
You asked for it and now it's here!
Traction is the personal workbook version of the many coaching principles found in Bridges Coaching. It's designed to be used by an individual, a couple, or a team with prompts taking you down the Bridges Coaching ROAD.
R - RecognitionÂ
The process starts off with an assessment tool guiding you toward where to put your focus next.Â
O - Ownership
Then, there are awareness questions that help you own your current life and your future!
A - Action Steps
SMART goals aren't just a buzzword for the business world! They really work and you can use them anywhere!
D - Dedication
Maintain your gain with these simple tips.
Don't stall out, get stale, or stay stuck!Â
This is the best bang-for-your-buck we know of in the coaching world! It's less expensive than one coaching session!Â
If you want a taste of the coaching paradigm, this book is for you.
If you're intent on moving forward in your faith journey, this book is for you.
If you want to help s...
Why Female Coaches Need To Be Attractive!
Got ya to click, didn't I!?
The truth is ALL coaches need to be attractive!
"Attractive", at its core, includes the concept of drawing toward or wanting to be near.
We probably all know someone who is gorgeous on the outside but is not someone we really want to spend time with. On the other hand, there are people in our lives that make us feel valuable, loved, and interesting. We want to spend time with them. We are attracted to them.
Who is like that for you? You know what I mean? You are "attracted" to them because they care about you. They ask you questions about your life, your interests, your thoughts, your nexts...
My brother-in-law, Mark, comes to mind for me. He is a successful businessman and could spend his time talking about himself or recent accomplishments, but for as long as I have known him he has always made the conversation be about the other person. He seems truly intrigued by how others think and live. (That's probably at least one key to his success.)
1 Peter...
But Really, How Will You Know When It Is Time?
Well...
“How will you know?”
It’s probably my favorite coaching question out there.
"How will you know (what ___)," "how will you know (when ___)," "how will you know (how ___)."
When prompted by the Holy Spirit to ask that powerful question, it unlocks a potential path forward for the person sitting across from you.Â
Instead of listening to advice or guidance from a "coach," the "how will you know" question puts the ball completely in their corner.Â
So, how will you know when it’s time to sign up for coaching certification?
Or how will you know when it’s time to ask someone you lead if they’re ready to sign up for coaching certification?
There are only five days left to register for our upcoming coaching cohort and there's no better time than the present to ask yourself "How will I know if it's time?"
Coach Training Isn't Easy -- But It Is Totally Worth It!
...In fact, you should probably think it through before you consider it.
It’s not easy changing a personal paradigm, and almost everyone needs to make major adjustments.
It’s costly, not just monetarily, but it will take time and effort. It’s intense.
To be honest, it’s humbling.
It’s one thing to affirm the concept in theory and another to put its values into regular practice.
BUT IT IS TOTALLY WORTH IT!
Coaching changed my life AND it has changed the people around me.
Here are some ways I have seen it actually accomplish end goals that would never have happened if I had not taken coach training.
- Interactions with family are different now.
* Marriage: One of the best surprises in my coach training was how it affected my marriage. I didn’t see that coming as I simply intended to use coaching in ministry, but what a wonderful asset it is to be able to love my husband more by listening well, believing in him, and hearing how the Holy Spirit is leading him.
* Adult children: Befo ...
Serendipity Brought Us Together. Is It Calling You? (Guest Blog by Michelle Pavasars)
“So, what do you do?”
A simple question asked of the woman sitting beside me at a wedding rehearsal over five years ago.
A simple question that launched me into the next thing God was calling me to in my coaching journey.
I am the bride’s childhood best friend. She, the groom’s sister-in-law. Now we journey together in this world of coaching… believing in the serendipity, or “God-incidence,” of that day… embracing the joy of walking alongside others as they seek change, growth, and transformation.
God continues to unfold my coaching journey one step at a time.
That moment five years ago introduced me to Cindy Scott and led me to Bridges Coaching. I began with the Destiny by Design course, and simply kept saying, “yes” to each next thing… Coaching Training, Accelerated Coach Training, being a peer pair facilitating coach, the NXL Advanced Coach Training, and various coaching opportunities along the way.
Learning about coaching… being coached… and coaching others… has helped me gro...
Join Our Zoom Open House!
We believe that questions are powerful.Â
And we want to give you the opportunity to ask us some questions.
Unsure if you want to sign-up?
Curious if it works?
Feeling "led" to jump in?Â
We're excited to announce our first online open house specifically designed to answer your questions.
If you have questions or want to learn a little bit more about what Bridges Coaching has to offer, join us at our ZOOM Open House!
Be sure to mark your calendars for January 16, 10:00 a.m. EST!
The link to join us is right here.
You'll have the opportunity to meet the Coaching Culture cohort course host, facilitators, and potential peer partners! You can also hear from alumni, ask questions about the course and where Bridges is going and we will even throw in some thoughts about our other offering Destiny by Design!
So, if you're thinking about investing in making engaged disciples, Bridges Coach Training could make all the difference.
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