Coaching Questions to take Everyday Conversations to a Next Level

Uncategorized Sep 07, 2025

You know those regular greetings we have where you say something like, "Hey, how ya' doing?" Maybe you really want to know, but more likely you just want to say more than a simple "Hi".

Or how about the classic, "How was your day?" that you ask a spouse, or child, a friend, or family member. It's usually met with another classic, "Fine, and yours?"

Let's take some coaching concepts and build a list of questions that could take our conversations deeper, helping us to know each other more and strengthen our conversations and our relationships.

Think of a few relationships you would like to go a little deeper. Which of the following questions could work for you in different scenarios?

Tell me about your day - what was funny or sad or weird?
What was hard for you today?
What was the best thing that happened today, or on vacation, or over the weekend, or ?.
Who is someone that inspires you?
Where did you see God at work today?
What is something you are praying for?
What is a goal you are working on, or a practice you are starting?
What is one way I can pray for you?

Or maybe you have an opportunity to go a little deeper - a date, a Saturday morning coffee, an evening chat... maybe some of these could work then.

Where would you like to be in 5 years? Ten?
If you could change one thing in the world, what would it be?
What character qualities do you admire most? You can give a list to choose from, or just give two or three and ask which they admire most and why? Honesty, kindness, emotional intelligence, extraversion, hope, patience, ...
- A good follow-up question for this one could be who they see that quality in.
If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
What do you love best about this season of your life?

Hope these questions spark some deeper conversations. I'd love to add to the list! Feel free to add ideas in the comments or email me. [email protected]

Coaching Questions to take Everyday Conversations to a Next Level

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