How To Help Your Client Prep For The Next Time THAT Happens!
[Tips and Tools Series]
You know that thing. The one that really ticks you off. And you're like "AHHHH!!! Why does this keep happening? Can't they see this isn't right?"
Or maybe you're more self-focused and you react to the thing by wishing you weren't so________________ (insert self-judgment here, so quiet, so moody, so wordy, so hot.... whatever.)
Whichever it is here's a quick tip to prepare for the next time THAT happens.Â
Let me introduce the "Rethink and Prethink".
It's simple really.
You go back to that moment in your mind and define when you were triggered and how you reacted. Whether the other person was at fault or the situation wasn't right is not our immediate concern, but more so how we reacted in that moment.
Many times we live in a state of regret or anger. Or maybe we vacillate between both.Â
The key is to look back and redo what happened in your head. Then rethink it. What should you have done? How would you like to have shown up?
Now take what you came up wi...
3 Invaluable Coaching Questions for "PPSD" [Post Pandemic Stress Disorder]
Ever heard of PPSD? If not yet, you will soon.
We've all been through a lot. Church leaders and businesses have had to move online. Schools were closed or disrupted. There were racial tensions on several fronts. Political issues were divisive. Social media moved from being a place to share pics of babies and celebration events to a rant fest.Â
Let's take a quick review. How many of these were true for you?
___You added some new initiatives, especially if you are a church or business leader and you added online offerings.
___You adjusted to different ways to connect with family or friends.
___You learned Zoom or another online video connecting platform.Â
___You got some sort of government money and you either needed it because your financial situation was severely affected, or you felt awkward and weren't sure why you were gifted and what, ethically, you should do with the money.
___You had to adjust your life around school being virtual at times.
___You were quarantined due to ...
The 3 Most Transformative Things Coaching Taught Me (Guest Blog by Sarah Fulton)
Editor's Note:Â Sarah Fulton facilitates the Coaching Certification cohorts for Bridges Coaching. She and her husband Jordan live in upstate NY with their 5 children. Her heart for coaching comes out in every area of her life and she helps others grow to their full potential.
I have a confession... I have always been kind of scared to parent teenagers.
Maybe it’s all the horror stories: “Oh, they’re cute now, but just wait until they’re teenagers!”, “They’ll turn into little monsters that you can’t wait to get rid of...”
Have you heard those too?
I knew God had more for me during this season of parenthood.
He wanted to equip me to navigate it well; I just had no idea I’d find powerful tools for parenting in coach training.
My first coaching course was intended for ministry training. I wanted to learn the most effective way to help people navigate transitions and grow quickly -- and it did that!
I still believe that coaching is the most powerful way to lead people.
But I had no i...
Even If Someone Asks For Advice, The Best Way To Help Them Grow Is Through Coaching
Telling > Teaching > Training > Trusting
That’s the growth paradigm we unpack in Coach Training.
Seems so simple at first glance. It goes like this:
When a child is young we tell them, “You can’t cross the road!”
Then we teach them, “Don’t cross the road without looking - there may be cars coming!”
Training comes next, where we teach them to look both ways and ask them if there are cars coming.
Then comes the day when we trust them and let them ride their bike to a friend’s house on their own and eventually “confidently” give them car keys, etc.
Easy right?
But what about topics where the stakes are much higher.
How does it work with issues like choosing a mate, career choices, financial investments, or even walking out a life of faith?
Often when parents of adult children have questions or concerns they revert back to telling or teaching.
It’s easy to do.
You have such deep concern about your adult children’s lives that you want to chime in and “save” them from poor choice...
Patience, Trust and Belief: 3 Must Haves To Be An Effective Coach
Did you know, true coaches DON’T tell people what to do?
True coaches use active listening and powerful questions to help people engage with God toward the desires He has put in their hearts and the way God is leading them!
True coaching requires patience, trust, and belief.Â
These things take time and don’t come easy. Let's explain.
Patience
Coaching walks with a person while they are learning to hear God’s voice for themselves. It would be much easier for me to just tell them what to do!
BUT woah! What if I am wrong? …. That is a scary thought and dangerous. However, if I am right it can be equally not good, if I am right I am teaching them that they need to go to someone else to hear from God… How sad. God wants to talk to them personally, and I want to get in the middle for expediencies sake?!
Trust
If I am honest, really honest, sometimes I don’t trust the Holy Spirit. I hate even saying that out loud, but that is what happens when I feel like I need to get in the middle a...