Let's take a quick look at the biblical definition of love.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 says,
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous, it does not brag, and it is not proud. Love is not rude, is not selfish, and does not get upset with others. Love does not count up wrongs that have been done. Love takes no pleasure in evil but rejoices over the truth. Love patiently accepts all things. It always trusts, always hopes, and always endures.
Benevolent Detachment is patient - it doesn't rush the other person to make a decision or take an action step.
Benevolent Detachment actually IS kind. We talked about that last time.
Benevolent Detachment is not jealous. It doesn't look at where others are at and wish for what they have, it is being consciously grateful for what we do have.
Benevolent Detachment does not brag and is not proud. It doesn't show off or compare, "If you want to know what I think..."
Benevolent Detachment is not rude, it doesn't butt in with what it thinks should be happening, it is not selfish wanting what is best for itself, or more convenient, or less weighty, and it does not get upset with others, instead, it releases them to God.
Benevolent Detachment takes no pleasure in evil, but rejoices in the truth. Could truth in this case be seeing that enabling is not actually helpful?
Benevolent Detachment patiently accepts all things. It sees things for what they are but carries it's own load and encourages others to do the same (Galatians 6:6) When we do this it leads to how Benevolent Detachment always trusts, always hopes, and always endures.
This is how we make disciples not dependents. This is coaching.
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Check out our Benevolent Detachment series - #1 What is Benevolent Detachment? #2 What was God thinking? #3 How is Benevolent Detachment Actually Benevolent? #4 But Isn't Detachment Kind Of Mean?
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